Learning to Trust

It is rare to find someone who is comfortable giving their trust away. We find it difficult to trust others because we realize we are not in control. There are numerous outputs that can take place once you give your trust away. Trusting can be frightful, but it can also be the key to reaching a healthy relationship.

Relationships are about two people, and trust is the same way. It requires you and your partner to compromise together with honesty and loyalty. In order to trust your partner, he/she must gain that trust. If your partner doesn’t show faithful signs in a relationship, that person is not worthy of your trust.

Many times it becomes very difficult to trust, and the problem is not in your partner. The problem is many times found in us. We live with boundaries and walls before us that impede us from relying and trusting others. These walls may be present due to past experiences where trusting others led us to broken hearts. They might be present due to disappointments when promises were made but never kept. There are numerous reasons why these walls built before us, but if we are not willing to bring these walls down, we won’t be able to trust again. If you can’t trust yourself, it is impossible to trust someone else.

One of the hardest things for human beings to do is to believe in something that is not seen. The proper term would be FAITH. We can try getting along claiming we don’t need faith, but at one point or another it will become essential. In order to trust your partner, you must believe in him/her. It can be a risk for many, jumping into the unknown. The moment you start believing in something, you lose control. All that is left is faith whispering to you..."its worth it".

There are numerous risks that you will encounter after giving your trust to someone. Many times things will work out, but many times they won’t. There will always be the possibility of getting hurt. The point is, we can’t live our lives with the fear of getting hurt. You must take a risk, lose control, bring the walls down, and believe.


"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket -- safe, dark, motionless, airless -- it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."

C.S. Lewis